Christmas & Adoption: Our Attachment to Myths

Christmas is a rough season for many in the adoptee community. Some reasons are obvious: focus on family, expectations of happiness… even more current atrocities like people thinking it’s “cute” to place their newly-adopted babies under trees as if they were a new pair of shoes. For me, the holidays highlight my own pet annoyance: […]

Secrets and Lies

If there was just one thing I could change – ranking #1 on the long list of things that drive me absolutely crazy in adoption – is society’s acceptance of secrets and lies as being inherent to the system and indeed “good” for the parties involved. Normally, this happens in relation to what the adoptee […]